Works For Me Wednesday is doing a reverse today. Shannon is asking us to share what does not work with us or did not work with us. Since I am on a Mothers Day Theme this two week in my blog, I thought I'd share something that didn't work for me as a mom. You guessed it: Ezzo Parenting.
I felt compelled to share this here to let "new mothers" or "expecting mothers" know that the principles taught in the books written by the Ezzo's are not for everyone. In fact, there are only a few parents I know who were successful at using it. Yes, I know a couple who raised their 7 kids using the Ezzo way, and yes they are healthy, polite kids... but my point is, it is not for everyone. Certainly didn't work for me.
The problem with the Ezzo parenting is that they labeled it "God's Way" when in fact, there really is no direct connection to God's way on this kind of parenting. And that's what I don't like about it. One of their book/series is titled "Growing Kids Gods' Way" and many young Christian parents are persuaded to believe that this is indeed God's way, like the "only way". The truth is, it is not, it's not the only way, not the best way for everyone. It tends to be "controlling" and "militaristic" as far as I am concern. It laid a lot of guilt on me, as a young mom who couldn't let my infant cry for a long period of time. Yes, I watched the "Preparation For Parenting video", I read their book, I tried to follow it, but in the end my mother instinct told me to nurture my child and not be stressed out by wanting to follow what the Ezzo is teaching.
I won't deal with the details of Ezzo parenting because all you have to do is Google Ezzo Parenting and you'll get tons of info on this (they authored many books including Babywise, etc.). My point in sharing is to encourage young moms to nurture their child ... and if you're a Christian mom and wants to know what God's word says about raising kids... read the Bible directly and ask the Holy Spirit to lead you as you raise your child.
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