Yesterday morning at breakfast I told my husband "You need to take me out on a date". Hubby replied "I do, don't I? Where and when would you like to go?"
Ten years ago, this conversation wouldn't have transpired in our household. I would have been too proud to ask my husband to take me out on a date. In my mind I would be thinking "If he really loves me, HE would ask me out for a date, He would be planning a date. If I ask him that means I force him to take me out and it's not coming from his heart." Then I would "brew" and my husband would not have the slightest idea what he did wrong. That was before. Not anymore.
The truth is, even if I am the one who initiated the "date" by asking him to take me out, that date could be meaningful. And that date surely would help add zest to our marriage. Through the years I have finally learned that if I want something to happen, i should make a way for it to happen, and if I need something, I should ask. That should not be a big deal (but it was for me in the early part of our marriage).
Too many couples nowadays (especially the ones with small kids) just don't have the time to "go out on a date" by themselves. Sometimes it's too much of a hustle - trying to find a babysitting, trying to find time and energy. Sometimes it seems not worth it to spend the extra money and time. But really, it is - it is worth it.
Romance is very important in marriage. Wives need this more than husbands. However, what husbands must realize is that keeping the romance alive in marriage has a payback. They in turn get a passionate wife who will fulfill their need for passion. A tired, worn out wife who's been with kids all day, or who's worked all day outside of the house and tends to her kids when she comes home won't have much energy left for a passionate night. The best that can happen is just fulfilling the "duty" of the wife to attend to the husbands need for "you know what" in a "let's do it and get over with it" manner.
Back to "date night". We have set this Friday night to be our date night. On this night we'll rekindle friendship and romance. Last real date we had was in July. It's time we have another one :)
This is a re-post. Since Sunday Scribblings prompt this week is about "the date", I decided to use this previous post as my entry. For more scribblings about "date" visit Sunday Scribblings here.