I have not told my husband yet. Last time I mentioned to him about my parent's desire to go home (about 2 weeks ago) he did not take it well...
It took me 1o years ... 10 years for me to finally get convinced that my husband would be ok for my parents to move in with us. It took me 10 years to "mold" him into our culture of being comfortable to have our parents living in our house. And now that he's so sold out, he's so stoked that they are here ... I would have to convince him that it's really good for them to go back home. I don't have another 10 years to spend. I need to convince him quickly. Internet, I need your help!
I really don't know how to break this news to my husband. I don't even have the energy and the words to explain why I think it's really ok for them to go back home. One main reason is that my parents feel that it's easier for them to rush to the emergency room of the hospital there in the Philippines than here on Maui. In my husband's mind, that's not a good enough reason. I understand what he means. My husband was explaining to me how my parents are better off here if they are worried about my mom's health because we have better medical facilities here than in the Philippines. He's preaching to the choir. I know that already.
But sometimes when we are dealing with "seniors" what is "common sense" or what is "logical" is not always what is "comfortable"...and sometimes when we are dealing with seniors "being comfortable" is better than being "logical"...that "making sense" does not matter if what makes sense to us does not make sense to them. Does that make any sense?
Internet, I am tired thinking about this. Would you tell me how to explain this to my husband?