Friday, May 18, 2007
Sunday Scribbling: Mask
The Pleaser and the Mask
She's feeling pretty worn out. After all, this is their third social event in a row. Being an introvert, she wasn't particularly being energized with these events. In fact, it's draining her energy. Not that she's anti-social. She loves being with friends, and she enjoys social gatherings. But 3 gatherings in a row is a bit too much for her. She knew she needed to re-charge. She knew she needed a quiet time.
Nevertheless, she kept her smile. Yes, it's the mask that she often wears when she has to mingle with people despite her longing for solitude. It's a mask she wears when she wanted to please her husband who is extremely extrovert and loves to hang out with people. Or the mask that she wears when she and her husband had a huge argument and is not doing well and yet she didn't want others to know.
When she finally gets a chance to be alone, she would take off her mask at home and wonders: "was I being a hypocrite?" "is smiling and pretending that everything is ok when it's not, being a hypocrite?" NO...there's a difference.... She's not a "hypocrite", she's a "pleaser".
She caught a glipmse of herself in the mirror and she smiled. This time, there was no mask....
For an interesting article about People Pleaser, go here.
For more scribblings on "mask", go to Sunday Scribblings here.
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