tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4843390995683827463.post691239851816833494..comments2024-01-10T11:57:03.952-10:00Comments on Liza's Eyeview: Taking Care of Our Elder Parents; A Sandwich Generation VentLiza on Mauihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03051821265972125935noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4843390995683827463.post-20873352490579377612008-01-06T06:57:00.000-10:002008-01-06T06:57:00.000-10:00liza, i can relate both my in laws are deteriorati...liza, i can relate both my in laws are deteriorating so fast despite the fact that they still both function well except they tend to forget things. last new year's eve they forgot they are cooking mulled wine and it was only the smell of something burning that brought them back into the kitchen, in time. a lot of small incidents like that and being forgetful about days, etc... we are really thinking and discussing about having someone taking care of them but they wont hear about it. hayyyy... not easy. at least my parents in manila have my bros and sisters to take care of them, if it comes to that. prayers to you.raqgoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09483100839729445236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4843390995683827463.post-21786446317602535402008-01-06T02:01:00.000-10:002008-01-06T02:01:00.000-10:00Your dedication to your mom and her memory issues ...Your dedication to your mom and her memory issues hits close to home for me. What an inspiration to see the love and care you constantly display to your parents. I'll keep you in my prayers. -ToddAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4843390995683827463.post-16711973254414846562008-01-05T14:18:00.000-10:002008-01-05T14:18:00.000-10:00I'm so very sorry. If your mother is moving into s...I'm so very sorry. If your mother is moving into some stage of forgetfulness/dementia, you may want to have her see a doctor. Aricept can slow down the process. She may be fine, just stressed from all the decisions she thinks she needs to make, her desire to be home, her desire to see the baby, her realization that she didn't make the right choice, etc. <BR/><BR/>But it falls on you, and that's more than hard. <BR/><BR/>The thing that best prepared me for dealing with my older parents was learning how to deal with a toddler. You can't help it if parents or children make bad decisions. The hard part is not getting sucked into fixing it when doing so would harm you or your family.<BR/><BR/>Vent all you need to. Always a good choice.<BR/><BR/>Bless you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4843390995683827463.post-50792110814552523712008-01-05T06:42:00.000-10:002008-01-05T06:42:00.000-10:00My Mum takes care of my grandma (she's 94) but it ...My Mum takes care of my grandma (she's 94) but it is really hard she can't do much for herself anymore and is very confused most of the time. It seems like as they get older people's expectations of how things should be and the demands they place on other people don't always come into line with reality. <BR/>It must be doubly hard for you and your parents when there is an ocean in between their home and yours! And maybe if I end up staying in Japan long term I'll have similar difficulties as my own Mum ages. She says she doesn't want her children to take care of her...but I'm sure she does really.Kamsinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07039627235813416300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4843390995683827463.post-80098646441683242812008-01-04T22:12:00.000-10:002008-01-04T22:12:00.000-10:00I agree with you on this. It's one of our values ...I agree with you on this. It's one of our values that's becoming a challenge given our present way of living and family members spread out all over the globe.<BR/><BR/>Your mom may be experiencing the impacts of having her family in various places that also makes it difficult for her to continue fulfilling her role as mom and grandmother for the next generation. Makes one feel guilty for not being able to do that and for things that are inevitable, I think.<BR/><BR/>I also have a similar difficulty with having my dad in Bicol (he chose to stay there than here in Manila) and us here in Manila.Azlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01573055750990326739noreply@blogger.com