Sunday, August 26, 2007

My Parents Want To Go Home - Part 2

Well... it did not go well...

My discussion with hubby about my parents wanting to go back home did not go well... Why am I not surprised? Two different people with two different cultures and two different family styles just do not view things eye to eye....

Honestly, I think it would be better off for my parents to go back home. I know about the fact that the medical facilities and services here are better, but if my mom is having this chest pains and headaches every night, what am I supposed to do? I can just ignore her and tell her it's nothing .. but what if throughout the course of it something really happens? What if it becomes the story of "the boy who cried wolf?"

I know... I know that if an emergency truly happens, that if an attack truly happens, we can always call 911. But how am I supposed to know when it's really "emergency"?

Did I tell you that when I called the MEDICAID here on Hawaii, I was informed that eligibility is after 5 years from the date of arrival? So, basically we'll have to pay for her medical expenses in cash for 5 years. I called Kaiser and there's no available help there either.

What complicates this situation is my parents' immigration status. If they go back home and stayed there for more than 6 months, the immigrant status will expire. That would be a problem. The easy solution is for them to come back here for a couple months visits before it expires...except that we don't have the finances to buy another round trip ticket. we don't have the finances to keep on buying the round trip tickets every six months. If only my AD here on the blog would enable me to make an extra $2,000 dollars within the next six month, then that can go to purchasing their ticket. But I do not have the gazillion readers for my ad to make the money I need. My brother Relly said maybe we should start buying the lotto tickets - who knows, we might win! right? riiiighhhhhhtttt!

I thought this week I would be having a lot of "happy posts" ... I guess not....

Keep praying ... pray that we make the right decision....

7 comments:

Mayogi said...

First of all I wanted to thank you for visiting my blog and secondly, I hope you find the strenght to do whatever is best for everyone. I understand your parents desire to go home. If I had the money and a job I wouldn't think about it twice, first thing tomorrow morning I'd be heading back home to Spain.

Kristen said...

I'll be thinking of you and praying for you to make the best decision for everybody involved!

Mixednuts said...

hi liza, thanks for visiting my blog. life really goes full circle, we will have our turn to watch over our parents. i know one day i will be doing the same. i hope you will find the solution that is best for all.

Jayred said...

Sorry to hear about your family's predicament, Liza.

May the Lord guide you all as you make your decisions.

P.S. I will be clicking on your ads from time to time. :)

Liza's Eyeview said...

Thanks ayogi, kristen, mixednuts and jayred.

Jenn said...

Oh Liza, I wish there was an easy, clear cut answer, but I trust that God will take care of you all.

My parents went through a similar process when my nana wanted to move back "home". Currently, they are in the process of moving my uncle to Hawaii from the P.I.

Will be praying...

Jessie said...

Aw, I am praying.
(((((BIG Hugs))))